The government is there to help you when you cannot find a job, and will provide you with benefits and funding to help you live your life. This money is there to cover all costs in your day-to-day well-being, such as the television, your food and your clothing, sustaining you financially while you look for a job. If you have kids, then you still have the responsibility of looking after them, and making sure that they receive everything they need to have the best chances in life, and to make sure they’re healthy.
The money that you receive from an unemployment compensation claim should treated as your income. This income is there to help you treat your children with the love and respect that you have for them. Budget properly, and this money should be able to go a long way. If you have any worries about whether the government will not be giving you the right level of welfare support, contacting them will enable you to receive helpful information on the forms you need to fill to get extra financial assistance. However, you should bear in mind that most forms of benefits are means tested, and this results in the amount you are given being reflective of your circumstances. For example, a person who has three children will need more benefits than a parent with one child. Alternatively, you may consider single-parent families, and the challenges that they face because of how their overheads are higher without another person to supplement income and provide stability.
Most of you on here are caught up in the "Game". Child support is not run by the government. Child support is a business. A business' primary function is to create an income to sustain itself and make a profit.
Now think about this carefully... If a happily married household of 2 people and a child has to have 3 jobs to sustain itself... What then do you think will happen when that family is torn asunder?
The bills that once were shared, are now doubled.
The average single income is barely enough to cover living expenses.
I am not saying a parent, man or woman should not take care of their child, but the system is flawed... As it is based on a punishment criteria.
The more punishment they dish out, the more in the whole you get, the further in the hole you are, the harder it is to climb out of.
There is absolutely NO monetary or legal help you can get once you are in the system for child support... It is an endless bottomless well from which you can never get out of... Some people are paying child support to children who are no longer children...
The ONLY fair thing to do, is to have the legal system mandate that each parent must take care of their child equally, as in sharing custody, living with both parents equally.
Some people complain that is hard on the child... But there is an entire culture of military children who move on a regular basis.
Being able to be with both your parents is truly the answer both spiritually and financially.
They system as it stands creates dead beat PARENTS, not just fathers...
The receiving parent seems to thing that they are entitled to money from the other parent, regardless of their financial situation...
My advice to all of you who think this way... Stop for a minute and imagine that you have to pay rent, car payments, insurance, electric, telephone, gas, water, sewage, groceries and fuel for your car. These are the BARE necessities of life. You HAVE to have all this to live and get to work and be able to communicate with work. This equates to a minimum of 1,600 a month.
The average job pays out 10.00 per hour 40 hours a week. That's 1,600 a month before taxes.
Now imagine having to pay child support at 600 a month.
You were already in the negative before they started taking out child support.
Most people have 2 jobs however, or they receive income from going to school.
But this in turn creates a situation where your quality of life is jeopardized. You can not see your child because you have to work so much, and you work very hard just to make ends meet. And if for one moment you fall upon hard times, you are PUNISHED for it.
So please, everyone... Think about the system and what it does to you. Imagine for one second that the non custodial parent somehow became the custodial parent and YOU were ordered to pay child support.
I have some great advise for all of you and all of your kids. Do not get married and don't have kids. I was married for 10 years. She was a lair, a cheat and in the end when the money ran out she got ugly. I regret this whole part of my life. I love my son but wish I never met her . I gave her half of everything I had when we were divorced and had to pay 17% of my income at the time which was $750 a month. I was in he mortgage industry for 20 years and when it failed lost everything. In 2008 I lost my income for a year. I continued to pay the $750 on savings and selling my possessions because I wanted to support my son. I got another job and it was $1,800 a month. I still paid $750 a month non court ordered. So for 22 months I made $12,000 and paid $11,000 in support. I went through all my savings an sold what I could to keep paying - non court ordered. Now the money is gone. I can not find employment. I am going back to school at 45 years old to start another career. She took the money for the past two years knowing I could file a modification at anytime. We had a verbal. I tried to work it out without the courts but she would not compromise on what she thinks she is owed. So my court date is in the end of this month. I still have no job and no money. My family and current girlfriend are supporting me while in these hard times. I do not know what to expect. I can not afford an attorney and the state will not appoint one for me. I might go to jail because of a mortgage meltdown? I will never have a chance to get a decent life if I have to pay 50% of what ever I make. I am a great dad. I call him every night and have him every other weekend. We have a great relationship. I am not a dead beat dad just caught in this slow economy and a dislocated worker to boot. I say this to all that read it tell everyone you know, tell your kids, DO NOT GET MARRIED, DO NOT HAVE KIDS. I regret my life now and it all seems hopeless. I have thoughts of death and feel the court system will be blind to the true situation. I regret my choices even though I did the right thing. Scotty
I want to give child support to my kids and I don't mind but I been trying to find a job and is been hard the money of the unemployment is only enough to pay my bills . I lost my apartment and I don't even have money to get another apartment and is hard nobody know until they loose a job and try to find one is not easy I don't think is fair for court to take money that you don't have and leave you in the streets.
Well it sucks how they take the child support out of your unemployment I just lost my job he fired me because I had to go see my P.O. Which is against the law but still can't do nothing about it then my P.O. Violates me for losing my job because I had to see him and is going to violate me again because I can't pay him because I lost my job so I filed unemployment so I can have some money till I get a job but can't work far away because P.O. Took my license and since I lost job child support is holdin my licence to so I can't go work far away and no jobs are here and my unemployment still wont start for like another month and its only 307 a week and child support is going to take all that every week and expects me to pay even more for a total of 350 a week and you call all this fair most ppl only want the child support not to support the kids but to just live off of so they don't have to work and I was doin good payin till I lost my job for no reason and I get punished for it
I have been making all my child support payments, and just lost my job. My EX is lazy and flat out refuses to apply herself to get a job that pays any real amount of money. She constantly refers to my child support payments as rent. I have been paying 800 a month, more than I have too, and I am looking for a job. But my unemployment benefits are less than half what I was making...so it only stands to reason, that everyone must sacrifice in order to make it through difficult times...sad to say the kids as well. Not to say they won't eat or have clothes, they just won't be the nicest clothes, and no more Happy Meals, and no extra things like toys etc...These are the times we live in. If I work one job I lose unemployment and make even less than unemployment pays, if I work two jobs, I lose time each day to find a real job with a future and lose time to finish school. Child support is child support, not an ex-wife life-style support system.
Oh my god,some of ye people on here have really f**kin pissed me off,I have been paying child support since 1994 and I've been working since and just recently I was laid off due to cutbacks,I never missed one payment except for the year Iw as sick and even my husbands Tax Return was taken but then he was stupid enough to file jointly so thats on him but not all people are lazy or are dead beat parents,I'm a mother who lost her children to a ignorant federal law thanks to Jimmy Carter,he had signed into legislation that whites cannot adopt american indian children but wot about the bio white parent of a indian child(ren),huh,answer me that,I just filed for unemployment almost 3 wks ago and at the time it said I would recieve 127.00 a week and I now just checked my claim and it say's (0),I'm 51 almost 52 and I will be paying child support til I die because I had cancer 4 yrs ago and was out of work for over a yr to recover and my arrears shot up to $70,000.00 and my ex even has tried to get our home,cars and other properties which none are in my name and the interests in NY is 14% where as in AK where my kids are and were born is 69%,if I wasn't married I would be on the streets so ye people that are shooting ye pipeholes off need to remember not all parents who pay are dead beats and to call us that is wrong and mean,I hope some of ye never get ye child support.
I'm on workers comp. I get 600.00 dollars a week. Out of the 600.00 I only get 260.00 a week. I pay my childs mother 340.00.I have caught up from being in the rears ( I shouldnt have been in the rears. I was paying daycare. And my daughter was on my medical. I bought all of her uniforms. I have a court order to see my daughter but yet I can't see her.) The judge didnt care that I was doing all that. Now that I'm caught up I'm still getting 260.00 a week. While my childs mother is getting 1,360.00 a month. There is something wrong with this picture. I don't have a problem paying child support but I believe I'm owed some back pay for over payment.
If they DO after they just took my whole tax refund...as a fifty nine year old man who just go a dun from a far away state for a "child" who is at least TWENTY and because of a fling I had with her during the course of TWO weeks before SHE dumped me twenty-two years ago without contacting her since...Suicide looks like the best option...then I'll have the last laugh...NOBODY gets paid. Short term punitive measures cripple a person's will and ability to succeed because of these unfair/draconian/misguided 'laws". No wonder people lose it and fly panes into agencies and stuff.
I just think that all these mothers who get child support don't use the money on there kids they use it on there now husbands.The court should really look into lots of these cases and these moms need to quit having babys from different fathers and quit living on there kids child support,really look for job and educate them selfs
To be fair to everyone involved, including the parents, the courts should mandate (make it a law) all divorcing parents to share custody and placement. That way there are not arguments on child support, because there is none. Each parent shares equal time with there children. Really thats best for the children. Right? And isn't that what the courts are ultimately looking for? If either were stay home parents, tuff. We don't need courts telling us what to spend on our children. They don't care. If the parents couldnt afford something for their children, would they not pay some of the bills just so their children could have X amount of money? Thats ridiculous! Courts should have no place in determining what we spend on our children!!!!!
What about a dead beat dad who got fired on purpose to not have to pay child support? He works side jobs for cash as much as possible, fought for unemployment and finally got it and now he whines because they take his child support out of his unemployment. SOME parents are dead beats....PERIOD!
I just hate that some women think that child support is a tool to use to get back at the man,for whatever was done between the adults. Yes I agree that a man should support his children but if you already have a man that takes care of his child why put him on child support...duhhh you will get more.b\c when you get child support in a mans mind it click and say that's it,nothing extra...and on top of that if he is already struggling with the unemployment rate why put him on so he can get behind and possibly end up in jail and then what..you still wont get child support..I think that every one should be able to work it out as grown people b/c both of you choose to lay down and make the kid(s). One more thing if you both are parents why is it just assume that the mother is the best parents its both parents child.I just say think about if the shoe was on the other foot..how would you react. ALSO to commit on the one who say that the ex and the children come first before the new current wife I think that statement was all from selfishness..it like if where not doing good I don't want to see no one else doing good...I think child support laws should be redone and to this day I am going to do my best to change it....
Why shouldn't they take it from your unemployment ....go get another job and support your kids --don't tell me you can't work at a gas station , car wash , mcdonalds....I'm so tired of these fathers trying to get out of paying their child support by hiding in the system--be a man and get a job --my ex owes me over 70,000 in support and now trying to go on workers comp...guess what dumb dumb they take that too- so go get a real job -
So glad to find out that they can, as a hard working single mom of two, it is only fair that my ex should pay his child support, it in no way reflects on me or what type of person I am! For those of us that have chosen to raise our children and support them, it is quite frustrating to watch their father find ways to get out of it. Come on now, be a man, support your children, they deserve at least that, they did not choose to have a deadbeat as a dad!
Not all custodial parents are sitting around, collecting money from non-custodial parents. I'm a recently divorced mother who works two jobs. One to get health insurance for my child (court ordered that his father should be providing that), and one to help pay for the daycare, food, rent and expenses to get to the first job. I literally see my son an hour a day, and I live with him.
All this because his father likes to quit jobs as soon as they find him to garnish his checks. He believes, as I see that many on this site believe, that if he doesn't have custody, he shouldn't have to pay anything. Well, I have custody and I can't see our son either due to the economy and due to what he's putting us through. Bad economy or not, he needs to be fed. Now, my son doesn't get to see either one of his parents. Where's the justice in that? Why am I the only one concerned enough for his well being to get a second job? Or, in my ex's case, a single job period?
To the woman who married the man who now hates his children and views them as a curse.... You're part of the problem. You allow it. You encourage it and you'll be sitting in the waiting room of family court with me if you have his children. Despite my situation, never have I ever once regretted going without so my son can have something. Never will I consider him a curse. That hour a day I can spend with him is a cherished hour and never taken for granted. Some would argue it's an hour more then many non-custodial parents get. To them I say, use your rights as a bio-parent, go to court and get your visits. Despite his non-payment, his visitation order is still there. Every weekend, he has the right to pick up his son. He never does, but it's there and I legally couldn't say no if he showed up. H**l, if he showed, he'd see his son more then I would.
Yes, if you are delinquent. Child support should be a parent's support of a child. Hopefully, BOTH parents are working, esp. For the sake of the child. I don't think it's fair to characterize a woman who receives child support as not working, sitting "on the sofa" and dependent. I don't know too many single parents (none in fact) who can support themselves on 20% (or even 33%) of an income - even a very large one. BOTH parents should contribute for a child they BOTH brought into this world
Why is it that fathers who don't pay their child support payments or make minimal payments are always claiming to be the victim? Can't they stop for 1 minute and realize that the child is the real victim? I feel sorry for the child b/c not only do they have a father who does want to pay for their support ... They has a immature father! Men get over the hurt ... All the complaining about how much child support you have to pay is not in the best interest of the child. What is in the best interest of the child, is that the child knows that both parents love them and will always be there for them. Your child loves you unconditionally, why is it so hard to give it back?
And, truth be told, most women don't take father's to court who are loving and supportive fathers who put their childs needs first. So, if you find yourself in court ... Maybe you should ask the question how can I be a better father for the sake of my child!
Okay,,,I have a few comments on some of the threads I have read here! In my case my ex husband CHOSE to quit a 20.00 HR job and move to another state BECAUSE thats where he grew up! He is on unemployment. He also CHOSE back in December to send his NEW WIFE BACK TO KENTUCKY due to her kids EX DYING. On our court order cs pymts of 300.00 for our daughter, he sends pymts WHEN HE CHOOSES. Well, due to all the above he is now behind!!! WE have NO communication at all since divorce 3 yrs ago, nor does he have any contact with his daughter who is 13.
I went to child support a couple wks ago deciding if I should or not! Well I'm glad I did now. Soon I won't have t worry when I will get paid. HIS DAUGHTER COMES 1ST BEFORE HIS NEW WIFE HIS DAUGHTER COMES 1ST BEFORE HE CHOSE TO LEAVE THAT JOB!
HE CHOSE TO BE AN ABUSIVE< CONTROLLING> SELFISH HUSBAND.
SO to all you men who are MAD that we come after you for child support????? TO BAD!!!! AND TO THE NEW SPOUSES: WE COME FIRST< PERIOD!!!!
I work a fulltime job and appreciate when I DO GET MONEY so I CAN GIVE MY DAUGHTER MORE!!!!!